Being a stay at home mom has it's pros and cons. The pros of course are you are there for your children. As a young teenager, I literally scoffed at that. I was going to have a career. Staying at home was so 1950's. But maturing and having children does something to your brain. It changes it. Also I realized I have control issues. Another problem I have is, I am an enabler. And I really need to stop being that way.
Here are some examples....
Over the weekend, Kristin was sick. Not like deathly ill just blah I feel like crap kind of sick. She spent the night in our room. On the floor. Come on she is 14. Last night she was hinting at it, and I was proud of myself for simply telling her, "You will be much more comfortable in your own bed and sleep much better." Which is true. She did. Ryan woke up in the night with a bad dream. When I had bad dreams, my mom always took me back to my room, laid down with me til I went back to sleep. I don't know how she did this. And she worked!
This morning, I was running back and forth and up and down getting the two younger ones ready for school. And I decided I was done. Okay as I said, my mom worked so I was forced to be independent. Is that a bad thing? I don't think so. I made my own lunches, I made my breakfast, I made sure I got dressed, I walked--yes walked people, to school, and I was...brace yourself...A LATCH KEY KID. Anyone too young to know what that is? Google it. No, my kids will not walk or need to be latch key kids, but they can do way more than they do...which right now...is practically nothing.
What about your kids? How much do they do for themselves? Is it time to go Jack Bauer?