Monday, June 11, 2012

What Do You Want To Be....?

When you were little you went through many phases of what you wanted to be when you grew up.  For a while I wanted to be a doctor.  Mainly because I had an awesome one.  He was funny, kind, and good at his job.  I wanted to be like him.  But it didn't take long for me figure out I could not be a doctor.  I do not sickness.  I hate germs.  Yep, I'm a germ-a-phobe.  You can't be a very good doctor if you can't handle that. 

I also wanted to be a teacher.  I had some cool ones.  And when you are a kid, having an awesome teacher has an impact.  But I realized, I am not especially good with kids.  So that was probably not a good choice for me either.  Funny, now I am in Primary! Ha!

So why am I bringing this up?  Well, on Saturday there was a pool party at our Bishop's house.  I was talking to a recent high school graduate, who just so happens to be a friend of Kristin's also.  She is heading to college in September.  Hard to believe that my child is old enough to have college age friends!!  I digress.  I asked this young woman what her major was.  She told me, and then added what her minor was.  She went on to say that she was much interested in her minor.  It was dream of hers.  But her mother said it was too risky, and why would she want to do that.  She even mentioned taking a double major with business.  Again her mother questioned her.  I overstepped the boundaries and said, "So you would be able to run a business."  Her response, "Exactly!" 

I was flabberghasted that her mom wouldn't say, "Shoot for the stars! Build your dreams!"  Have a back up plan, yes.  But build those dreams.  Make them yours.  I am letting my kids build on theirs.  Drama and acting is probably one of the toughest fields to get into.  And I make no bones about that, but I also tell her to go for it.  However, she has to study it.  I will support her the best way I can!  Emily wants to be an artist.  And you can bet I will be there every step of the way.  Ryan, is young, and still discovering himself.  I see an athlete in him.  He can do any sport he desires.  Only time will tell.  Whatever he wants I will support him.

What say you?  Do you support their dreams?
*I want to clarify that I don't think this mother wasn't so much not supporting her child, as she was looking out for her best interest*

6 comments:

Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell said...

There are a lot of parents I've met who have that same kind of thinking. They want security for their child, I think. (I'm thinking about artists and musicians, etc.)

Actually you just made me realize that my niece is headed to college next year for dance, but she is also getting a degree in history ie. the back-up plan. A dancer's career is extremely short IF they even make it.

mormonhermitmom said...

As one who followed "the dream" and crashed and burned, I get what the other mom is saying. Not everyone has the guts, motivation, perserverence, and eternal optimism to follow "the dream". Let "the dream" be the minor, and let "the backup plan" be the major - effectively do something that will finance the dream. Poverty is no stinking fun.

I know, I'm a total buzzkill on this one, but I'd change so much if I had the chance to do it over again.

becca said...

i will support whatever dream my son chooses as long as he knows what he wants and how hard he will have to work for it. be it music, art or engineering

Nicole said...

You're right, let them do what they want, but being a person who I can't seem to find a job in my degree and I have a fairly downgrading job for what I can actually do, I can see how it would be difficult if you couldn't see a future for them. Heck I want to go back to college for photography but I'm scared I couldn't find a job doing that either.

Emmy said...

I totally agree that they should be able to follow their dreams but I also think it is a very good idea to have a back-up plan as you just never know what life is going to through you

Laura Lynn said...

We absolutely support their dreams but because of experience, we challenge them to go toward them from different angles, maybe. I've rarely seen any plan come together just as it was planned. Life gets in the way so you have to adjust. We want our kids to learn that early!