When Push Comes to Shove
We went to see Toy Story 3 on Friday. I loved it. I want to see it again. In 3D. Why does it have to be so danged expensive to see them that way! Especially since most of the movies are being presented that way anyway. Not the point. We all loved it. We all boo-hooed some. It was the best in the series.
After the movie, we had designs on going to dinner. Well it was only 4 when the movie was over so we decided to walk around the mall. There is a play area in our mall that is perfect for the younger set. Little cars with slides, a "stone" bridge for crossing is usually used for jumping. It's always packed with kids and chaos. Friday was no different. Kids and chaos as usual.
Ryan was happily playing and all of the sudden he was running to me, crying. Apparently some littlemonster child boy had pushed Ryan. We calmed him down, and told him to go back and play. He did. And then I saw it. The monster child who was likely 3..or a very short 4. It's hard for me to judge based on height since my kids are off the charts for height. This rotten boy pushed my child! Unprovoked. He just shoved him. And then I said it. "Push him back!" Now I didn't say it loud enough for Ryan to hear him. But if you were within 2 feet of me, you would have heard me. To my pleasure surprise, Ryan did exactly that. He pushed him back. Rich didn't like it though. I can see his point. I can. But why should he let that kid push him? He didn't do anything. He just was there. It made me mad. I have a dark side. I took a quiz on FB as to which character of 24 I most resemble....
Basically I am good person, but do not cross me or those that I love and hold dear.
So I have a question. What would you do? Do you tell your kid to push back--while I did say it, Ryan did not hear me--do you want your kid to do that? At that moment, I did. What would/should you do?
After the movie, we had designs on going to dinner. Well it was only 4 when the movie was over so we decided to walk around the mall. There is a play area in our mall that is perfect for the younger set. Little cars with slides, a "stone" bridge for crossing is usually used for jumping. It's always packed with kids and chaos. Friday was no different. Kids and chaos as usual.
Ryan was happily playing and all of the sudden he was running to me, crying. Apparently some little
Basically I am good person, but do not cross me or those that I love and hold dear.
So I have a question. What would you do? Do you tell your kid to push back--while I did say it, Ryan did not hear me--do you want your kid to do that? At that moment, I did. What would/should you do?
Comments
Good post and good topic and if you ever need me I'll also be your Jack.
Hugs,
Kim
Also, how do bullies start? Is it because they can always get away with pushing another child around and what if that child does not allow themselves to be pushed around because they have confidence and self respect.
I think you did the right thing.
(P.S. I would never push a child...even if I really wanted to.) :)
Unless my child were in danger of being hurt (not just annoyed) or of hurting someone else, I pretty much stayed out of it. I wanted my children to learn how to cope with these types of things. Mom wouldn't always be there to bail them out, so it seemed best to let them figure out how to respond ahead of time, when I was there to step in if needed.
JMHO, of course. And it wasn't easy. I also felt like letting the other kid have it!
=)
PS. I liked the advice you gave your son. Just telling the kid to stop is always a good solution. And sometimes it even works!