Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Kind Words

Kind words are sadly hard to come by.  Harsh and hurtful words seem to be the commonplace these days.  So isn't it nice when we are showered with lovely kind words from our peers?

Today when I picked up Kristin from school, I met her in the classroom where she is the Teacher's Aide.  A choice she made on her own, and a choice I think has been quite good for her.  Her teacher thinks very highly of her.  In her classroom is a large piece of paper with Kristin's name at the top.  Below are things the class all said about Kristin.


I love the "talks a lot."  I am not sure if this a good thing or not.  But what I saw I noticed, are the things she worries about most:  many friends, smart, cute dresser.  And what she should take most notice to are these:  Cheerful, respects others, smart, nice and kind.  Those words are the ones we should carry with us.

It is hard to accept compliments.  Why?  Because we don't deserve it?  Because we are somehow conceited when we say, "Thank you."  Instead we find ourselves dismissing the kind words.  "Oh it was nothing."  "I'm not always this cheerful.  You don't live with me!"  "That wasn't so smart...more like luck."  No, it's not luck. We are smart.  We are kind.  And we are cheerful.  That last one isn't always easy, but hey I think we all get an A for effort.

So the next time, you hear a kind word...remember to simply say, "Thank you."  It doesn't make you conceited.  It shows you are appreciative of a few simple kind words.  Here's a few for everyone:  You are funny, smart, sweet and beautiful people.  Thanks for letting me peek into your lives, and being interested in mine.

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Picture of the Day


Christmas is over, but the memory lingers on.  The last of the decorations.  Rich's village.

16 comments:

J. L. W. said...

You must be so proud of your daughter! True words. I never really thought about it but I have a tendency to dismiss compliments so "thank you" for a great post! I'm visiting from SITS. Have a great Wednesday!

Nikia, May and da kids said...

It's true about not being able to accept a compliment. We always seem embarrassed by the kind things we do or good acts we preform. In RS they asked the women to name some things they feel inadequate about. There was a big laugh session and the sisters could name off tons of things. When asked to name something they are happy about with themselves. I was one of two people who raised my hand.

I am making a conscious effort to treat myself better than I ever have this year because I always took the backseat and I think this year, I deserve to care more about me, in moderation of course.

That was a great reminder!

May

mormonhermitmom said...

That's cool!

dragonfly said...

Thanks for the post... yes we do indeed decline compliments instead of taking them as they are given.

You daughter is a credit to you!

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Richard said...

I will take the "Picture of the Day" as a not so subtle reminder that I need to get that put away.

We are our own worst critics. We don't think we sing well, dress nicely, talk good, etc. Sometimes when someone complements us, we disregard it. I am guilty of that, many times over. Sometimes I am good at accepting complements, sometimes no. I need to "get out of my own way"!

Mamma Christine said...

How wonderful. What a great teacher to encourage that type of a classroom. I'm glad Kristin is part of that environment.

Lee the Hot Flash Queen said...

Doesn't that make you feel good, and what a great lesson to teach self esteem!!

Kristin said...

That is adorable! And good job mama. Clearly she's a fabulous kiddo! And I love her name. Ha ha

Emmy said...

Great post. And great advice. I know whenever Eric used to say something nice to me I would just make some comment/excuse back until he started calling me on it. Now I do just say thank you... well with him at least. :)

Rachel said...

I really enjoyed your post. And I think it's really fun to read such wonderful words to learn more about your girl!

Holly said...

I used to just "ignore" compliments, but now when someone gives me one, I am trying to catch myself and simply say "Thank you." (without a long explanation).

silfert said...

Thank you for being there on THOSE days...

Rachel Sue said...

I have a hard time with this as well. But it is kind of funny. Most compliments I brush off but the ones that I can accept, they somehow go to my head and I get all conceited. I'm such a dork.

KK said...

You are right, it's hard for me to just say thank you.

Dianna@KennedyAdventures said...

what a wonderful trait --- although hard to learn -- accepting compliments gracefully. I have to remind myself, as well as my oldest daughter -- 'just say Thank you'.

I love the Christmas village! (wouldn't last long at my house!)

Joanna said...

What a wonderful post! That's something my husband has been working on me about for years. We moms tend to place the credit anywhere we can instead of taking the compliment for ourselves. Happy first SITS Saturday sharefest!!!